Monday, February 20, 2012
FREE LOVE
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
My Normal is too Weird for You
What exactly is 'normal'? How does 'normal' exist?...I mean, if you take the infinite number of possibilities of situations, thoughts, objects, etc. that someone encounters in a lifetime and ask every human being on earth what they would consider 'normal' in each and every one of those situations, not one person's entire cumulative thought stream of 'normal' would be the same as another. So what fully encompassing definition of 'normal', what scientific measure, what mathematical standard, to what degree can we be justified in labeling something as 'normal?' It seems as if that question just happened to clearly answer itself.
(And for those of you going above and beyond the call of duty to make a calculated effort to be weird, unique, eccentric...to stand out as much as humanly possible for fear of blending in with 'normalcy'. You're far from abnormal...)
(c) 2012 by Jessica Freites
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Necessary 'Do It For Me' Qualities
Written around 6 or 7 years ago...not much has changed. Ha.
I've come to realize, after some reflection, what it is that I need in my next potential "social experiment partner," (I'm not a fan of labels) in order for me to know that there is a chance that this individual might stick around a bit...actually not even that, just that that individual will have an intense impact on me in one way or another and "do it for me" (one of the most awesome "relationships," although we had no label and it was very short-lived was truly one of the illest). I want to make it absolutely clear...these are not qualities that mean I will like someone. They're qualities that mean I'll continue liking them to a point where I'm impacted by them...the initial spark/attraction/interest must already be present. This is probably the most corny/sappy/sentimental you'll ever hear me but...here goes.
QUALIFYING FACTORS
1) To be able to be so comfortable and free with him that we can sit in the car, not say one word to each other, listen to music, feel each other, and drive with absolutely no destination.
2) He's a non-sheep
3) When we're together there's no such thing as awkward silence, actually while in each other's presence silence is quite comforting.
4) We can slow dance in his living room with with no music playing
5) We meditate together
6) We fuck the shit out of each other's minds
7) I can play hackie sack, pool, video games, whatever...all things I really suck at but like to do anyway, and he tries to teach me, I still don't learn shit, but it's ok cause we had maaaaaaaaaad fun.
8) We laugh...A LOT
9) He understands that just cause I'm not in the mood to talk doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong.
10) He can act like a complete fool in front of me
11) I can act like a complete fool in front of him
12) When I'm in his presence I want to rape him and I'm comfortable enough to act on it (I'm shy...at first)
13) He'll cook with me every once in a while
14) He understands my motivating factors for playing piano and violin and why I don't feel the need or desire to play for others...but he still wants to hear me play
15) The terms humility and humbleness mean something to him
16) He is aware of his health
17) He knows what a blackbook is and understands why I cherish mine so and why it is absolutely necessary for me to take it with me everywhere
18) I fiend and hang onto his scent like a junkie does with crack and when I come home I smell my clothes and smile because they're reminiscent of him
19) I usually don't bother arguing if I'm annoyed or upset, but with him, I actually care enough to do so.
20) He doesn't judge the homeless
21) We respect one another
22) When he falls asleep next to me I look at him and it makes me smile
23) He's a slightly more aggressive male version of myself
24) Sarcasm and wit battles are appreciated and are our version of mental foreplay
25) He's passionate about life
26) He is my best friend
27) He understands the difference between knowledge and wisdom
28) When I talk about hip hop/arts/music/poetry/spirituality for hourrrrrs, he doesn't think it's weird...because he does it to
29) I don't explain myself to him because I feel I have to...I do it because I want to.
30) He doesn't waste my time and is considerate of it because he realizes I have other things and interests going on in my life...and he does too
31) This holiday I already know what I want to get him next year...and I probably get him it now, just because
32) He's willing to teach me how to drive stick and go with me to the gun-range
33) I can completely be myself around him without fear of being judged...easier said than done
34) I can learn from him
35) He's good with kids
36) We can spend an entire day doing absolutely nothin and have the dopest time ever
37) When we watch movies at the crib we often times have a hard time making it to the end of the movie...if you catch my drift
38) We both don't care about "what we are" and our label cause we're just enjoying "what we have" and how dope the moment is
39) He lives spiritually as opposed to just talking about it
40) Play-fighting is necessary
41) When we dance (he must be willing to dance) we dance as if no one is watching cause we're too much into each other to frankly give a shit about anyone else
42) He gets why I want to adopt children and he does too
43) He understands the dopeness associated with chillen at bookstores, art shows, and little hole in the wall lounges
44) He thinks it's cool that my mom does charts and tarots and that I'm into studying the occult, conspiracy, etc., and even though he might not know that much about it, it triggers his interest
45) His corny ass gay comments/habits/mannerisms that would normally erk the hell outta me...well, they're cute
46) His random body parts, like his forearms, calves, shoulders, the back of his neck, etc...are the most incredibly sexy turn on ever... to the point where that rape feeling I mentioned previously becomes reality
47) His smile makes me smile
48) His musical taste is broad
49) He has ill style, but is confident enough to where he doesn't have to put it on display all the time...sweats and a beater never looked so hot
50) He's not a cocky fuck, it's just most people can't appreciate his bluntness/straightforwardness/sarcasm and someone who just likes themselves
51) He let's me be on top, but he's man enough to also take control, and good enough for me to let him be...visualize a predator prey role reversal type struggle that goes back and forth
52) We can waste an entire roll of film taking complete bullshit pictures of each other...and they're priceless
53) Money isn't his sole and primary motivating factor in life but he's rational enough to realize financial security is important
54) The terms social loner and practical idealist make sense to him
55) He can keep up and appreciates my randomness because he's just as random...and he realizes that they're really not that random, it's just that my linear train of thought moves in light years
56) During sex our breathing patterns force me to listen...hard, and make me sweat...harder
57) He buys me a card and actually writes something in it and knows that I mean it when I say that that means more to me than a bullshit gift
58) I can enjoy pleasing him sexually and feeling him inside of me in hopes of more than just reaching my peak or feeding my ego
59) He's charitable
60) He understands the necessity of giving each other space and that makes us want to be around each other more because our time together is voluntary not mandatory
61) He understands that I'm not yelling...I'm just passionate, expressive, and animated when I speak
62) He let's me pick at his back and his face
63) He doesn't necessarily completely understand me, but he's willing to try and accepts me for who I am
64) He agrees with my views on marriage...that marriage should only be a celebration of what's already there, and an unnecessary option, because the man I want to spend my life with, well, what we're going to have will be so secure and real that we will already be spiritually connected...marriage isn't the next step, it'll be an optional recognition of what's already there
65) He let's me do my occasional short-lived ranting and raving and let's it roll off of him because he realizes I'll get over it in a few minutes
I've come to realize, after some reflection, what it is that I need in my next potential "social experiment partner," (I'm not a fan of labels) in order for me to know that there is a chance that this individual might stick around a bit...actually not even that, just that that individual will have an intense impact on me in one way or another and "do it for me" (one of the most awesome "relationships," although we had no label and it was very short-lived was truly one of the illest). I want to make it absolutely clear...these are not qualities that mean I will like someone. They're qualities that mean I'll continue liking them to a point where I'm impacted by them...the initial spark/attraction/interest must already be present. This is probably the most corny/sappy/sentimental you'll ever hear me but...here goes.
QUALIFYING FACTORS
1) To be able to be so comfortable and free with him that we can sit in the car, not say one word to each other, listen to music, feel each other, and drive with absolutely no destination.
2) He's a non-sheep
3) When we're together there's no such thing as awkward silence, actually while in each other's presence silence is quite comforting.
4) We can slow dance in his living room with with no music playing
5) We meditate together
6) We fuck the shit out of each other's minds
7) I can play hackie sack, pool, video games, whatever...all things I really suck at but like to do anyway, and he tries to teach me, I still don't learn shit, but it's ok cause we had maaaaaaaaaad fun.
8) We laugh...A LOT
9) He understands that just cause I'm not in the mood to talk doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong.
10) He can act like a complete fool in front of me
11) I can act like a complete fool in front of him
12) When I'm in his presence I want to rape him and I'm comfortable enough to act on it (I'm shy...at first)
13) He'll cook with me every once in a while
14) He understands my motivating factors for playing piano and violin and why I don't feel the need or desire to play for others...but he still wants to hear me play
15) The terms humility and humbleness mean something to him
16) He is aware of his health
17) He knows what a blackbook is and understands why I cherish mine so and why it is absolutely necessary for me to take it with me everywhere
18) I fiend and hang onto his scent like a junkie does with crack and when I come home I smell my clothes and smile because they're reminiscent of him
19) I usually don't bother arguing if I'm annoyed or upset, but with him, I actually care enough to do so.
20) He doesn't judge the homeless
21) We respect one another
22) When he falls asleep next to me I look at him and it makes me smile
23) He's a slightly more aggressive male version of myself
24) Sarcasm and wit battles are appreciated and are our version of mental foreplay
25) He's passionate about life
26) He is my best friend
27) He understands the difference between knowledge and wisdom
28) When I talk about hip hop/arts/music/poetry/spirituality for hourrrrrs, he doesn't think it's weird...because he does it to
29) I don't explain myself to him because I feel I have to...I do it because I want to.
30) He doesn't waste my time and is considerate of it because he realizes I have other things and interests going on in my life...and he does too
31) This holiday I already know what I want to get him next year...and I probably get him it now, just because
32) He's willing to teach me how to drive stick and go with me to the gun-range
33) I can completely be myself around him without fear of being judged...easier said than done
34) I can learn from him
35) He's good with kids
36) We can spend an entire day doing absolutely nothin and have the dopest time ever
37) When we watch movies at the crib we often times have a hard time making it to the end of the movie...if you catch my drift
38) We both don't care about "what we are" and our label cause we're just enjoying "what we have" and how dope the moment is
39) He lives spiritually as opposed to just talking about it
40) Play-fighting is necessary
41) When we dance (he must be willing to dance) we dance as if no one is watching cause we're too much into each other to frankly give a shit about anyone else
42) He gets why I want to adopt children and he does too
43) He understands the dopeness associated with chillen at bookstores, art shows, and little hole in the wall lounges
44) He thinks it's cool that my mom does charts and tarots and that I'm into studying the occult, conspiracy, etc., and even though he might not know that much about it, it triggers his interest
45) His corny ass gay comments/habits/mannerisms that would normally erk the hell outta me...well, they're cute
46) His random body parts, like his forearms, calves, shoulders, the back of his neck, etc...are the most incredibly sexy turn on ever... to the point where that rape feeling I mentioned previously becomes reality
47) His smile makes me smile
48) His musical taste is broad
49) He has ill style, but is confident enough to where he doesn't have to put it on display all the time...sweats and a beater never looked so hot
50) He's not a cocky fuck, it's just most people can't appreciate his bluntness/straightforwardness/sarcasm and someone who just likes themselves
51) He let's me be on top, but he's man enough to also take control, and good enough for me to let him be...visualize a predator prey role reversal type struggle that goes back and forth
52) We can waste an entire roll of film taking complete bullshit pictures of each other...and they're priceless
53) Money isn't his sole and primary motivating factor in life but he's rational enough to realize financial security is important
54) The terms social loner and practical idealist make sense to him
55) He can keep up and appreciates my randomness because he's just as random...and he realizes that they're really not that random, it's just that my linear train of thought moves in light years
56) During sex our breathing patterns force me to listen...hard, and make me sweat...harder
57) He buys me a card and actually writes something in it and knows that I mean it when I say that that means more to me than a bullshit gift
58) I can enjoy pleasing him sexually and feeling him inside of me in hopes of more than just reaching my peak or feeding my ego
59) He's charitable
60) He understands the necessity of giving each other space and that makes us want to be around each other more because our time together is voluntary not mandatory
61) He understands that I'm not yelling...I'm just passionate, expressive, and animated when I speak
62) He let's me pick at his back and his face
63) He doesn't necessarily completely understand me, but he's willing to try and accepts me for who I am
64) He agrees with my views on marriage...that marriage should only be a celebration of what's already there, and an unnecessary option, because the man I want to spend my life with, well, what we're going to have will be so secure and real that we will already be spiritually connected...marriage isn't the next step, it'll be an optional recognition of what's already there
65) He let's me do my occasional short-lived ranting and raving and let's it roll off of him because he realizes I'll get over it in a few minutes
Friday, December 9, 2011
Free Writing. Emphasis on 'free' and 'writing'.
Trying to write these days has been more than difficult; almost unnatural...But I'm a writer, right? Nah, prob not, just a vessel, who's chosen form of expression for an indefinite amount of time rather fancied the pen. But what to do in a world where pens and paper are but primitive tools to express primitive, thoughts? How am I supposed to feel a particular connection, a surge of warmth circulate through my tentacles of expression through a cold contraption, a mass produced contraption that's made my own handwriting unrecognizable to the portals of observation, otherwise known as my eyes. The connectors or synapses or whatevers between my emotions, thoughts and feelings and means of expressing the such are so...anti-social. My very own ideas have given me the cold shoulder...I suppose my fingertips haven't been getting enough circulation to feel their own warmth...to feel accompanied in the constant need or struggle to express. It's almost juvenile in a sense...narcissistic. A need to be recognized, acknowledged, for discovering or just unveiling the clusterfuck of sensations that most likely exist in us all...But I, said it first...and so eloquently, may I add. Maybe my ego is disappearing, maybe that's why implanting such words on a fixed medium seems so trivial amongst the greater scheme of things. Maybe I'm happier these days? since I don't have to talk to myself as much. Or maybe, my capacity for making words carry meaning has lost itself amongst the over-saturation of words primarily residing and bombarding our peripherals. Who's writing is this? I've never looped an 's' or rounded out an 'e' in such a manner. And for whatever reason, I don't care to change it. If the content of my words lack in their methods of expression, than their rogue appearance encrypts a message beyond conscious comprehension. At this very moment it makes me so happy to write as I please, without the authoritative intrusive red line that is spell-check. How can we grow if we don't make mistakes. How am I expected to flowfully spew out my inner most subconscious nuances, how can I expect for things to so organically 'slip' if consistently, my thoughts, are continually being invaded by that awful squiggly red line. I know what I meant to write. How can I learn the difference between me 3 seconds ago in that dimension over there, and the self-actualization that has occurred from the second I crossed out that word or rewrote the same word four times over again because as I crossed, underlined, circled, scribbled, I actually figured out, all by myself, what I actually meant...to say. Look how messy that sentence is...and I finished it in a just a few brief moments. Look, how much I learned in those few brief moments. I don't want to delete my thoughts. I want them refined, I want to SEE the growth. How else am I expected to truly identify with them otherwise. My energies, my words, my motivations, are real. Why toss them in the eternal abyss that is our computer's recycling bin. That's so...final. And that's just unrealistic, nothing about our existence is final nor permanent, so why deny yourself of the person you were 30 seconds ago. Connect to your scribbles, make love to your crooked letters, embrace your pen's confusion. It's why you're HERE. Why you probably understand yourself better now than you did at the beginning of this piece. Why now your curves and loops are far more grandiose, almost pompous, and why that panic attack has magically...disappeared. Take it out on the countless pages that lie beneath your fist. Embed yourself in its fibers. They're there to comfort you. To let you make mistakes and tell you....it's OK. Be rebellious, write LOUDLY. Make the ink SCREAM. Bet you can't quite do that in Text Edit. So...bland. I want to almost not be able to decipher my words because they appear so unconventionally drawn out...but KNOW exactly what they say because their personality is ALIVE! Because their context is a 3-D experience.
I've said enough...you get the point.
(©) 2011 by Jessica Freites
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Suicide Lover
Personal fave...Written: Dec. 11, 2006
RIP Robert...
Suicide Lover
My suicide lover
We've come a long way over time
And cause of my baby I'm goin out with
style
and in the meanwhile
I just wanted to let you know that
I'm thankful for having you in my life
For the emotional roller coaster
ride
of excitement
you've provided
and now I'm ready and willin for you to slide up in it
cause
in my time of need
you gave my nonexistent life and
me
meaning
I remember in the beginning
First I'd start off with a long island
maybe followed by a line 'n
eventually in time
some crack rocks
and popped off bottle tops
so I could swallow my medley of pills
and we'd
just
...chill
as they flowed
down my throat
to the point where I almost
choked and overdosed
from this masochistic
deep-throat
and now
even better to get me wetter I'll make it extra sexy
and suck up just enough liquor til my liver shivers
like my clit in an epileptic fit until it just
quits...like the gun that'll be goin'
click click
after being thoroughly lit
cause I want some passionate hits
into my life that's abandoned and rampant of uninspiring
shit,
and so I want it hard and fast
with my pulsating eager finger that quivers on the trigger like
BLAST BLAST!!
as the gun busts its bullet nut
from its phallic barrel shaft,
ramming and fucking my brain
and it might seem
strange or even insane, but no one understands
i need you
because just the thought of you givin' it to me releases me from my carnally inflicted
pain
Life is cruel and neglecting
and when we're together you're just so attentive and protecting
Really,
the only sense of comfort I feel
is fromt the thought
of the sensual warmth of
cold steel
as the thin sharp blade
serenades,
seduces,
and caresses
my vein
only anxious for deep
penetra-
tion
where my orgasmic cum
is of
hot blood
rushing and escaping from the spiritual raping
that's led to this love affair with the blade
but
these secretions aren't of semen
they're of tears 'n
I'm afraid that I've reached my peak
and now I feel incredibly weak
But once again
thank you for making life seem less bleak
and saving me in the current moment
cause
my heavy breathin' and moanin'
was actually a blood curdling
cry from my
soul
to be,
in desperate hope
spiritually free...
(©) 2006 by Jessica Freites
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